Don't let the bad attitude linger
Women can be highly emotional and we tend to keep mental notes of everything. At times, we may forgive but we truly don't forget. It lingers with us and as an equine professional you will find yourself having many mental discussions about the things you see and what upsets you. I still have these discussions with myself once in a while but, thank goodness, not as often anymore. I have found that women tend to keep checks and balances where men just let it go and move on.
I believe one of the reasons we as women become short tempered and annoyed is because we try to micromanage what our clients are doing. If you are micromanaging your clients, then the best thing you can do for you and your business is to stop. Your clients need to learn and grow and that is very difficult if you are constantly telling them how to do things especially with their horse. Sure, it might not be the way you would do it but if you give them a chance to learn on their own, their horsemanship will improve right alone with them.
As a professional, you need to learn when to encourage, educate and even have heart to heart talks when rules are not being followed. If you can let some of the small stuff go you will find yourself with more time to get other things done and even find more time for yourself. This is definitely a process and I have had to learn many things about myself along the way when it came to my boarders.
Becoming less tolerant is okay
I have definitely changed over the last ten years as a businesswoman. I am less tolerant but have more patience at the same time. Is that possible? I believe it is. I have learned to be slow to speak when something is upsetting me and to really think about how I want to say it before I blurt it out. I also don't have time anymore for people who flat out don't want to follow the rules or have respect for my barn, property and especially other people at the barn. It is all part of growing as a businesswoman and it is a much needed part of becoming whole as an equine professional.
Remember that there is a huge difference between being less tolerant and being crabby. You can't control how your clients are going to perceive you in certain situations and that is okay. I believe that when you get to the point that you don't worry as often about what your clients think of you, your job will become easier when dealing with uncomfortable conversations. You will also gain a greater respect for the wonderful clients you do have and they will gain a new respect for you. Mutual respect and growth in a business comes with many steps forward and a few steps back. Get ready because you are going to learn a great deal about yourself as you continue on this incredible journey as a professional horsewoman.
Today's post is a small excerpt from my new book, "One Horsewoman to Another." Ladies, this book was written for you. It is about women, business and horses and how we deal with all of it. This book will encourage and inspire and most of all remind you that you are not alone. Today I want to celebrate the professional horsewoman you have become. I believe this book will change your life and how you look at yourself as an equine professional.
Wishing you many blessings in your horse business,